Get Your Heart Beating Strong

For so many single people these day, dating has become a chore and a necessary evil means to an end – that of finding love.  Everywhere you go singles are complaining about ‘dating fatigue’ and joining in ‘gripe fests’ about all the confusion and frustration of the ‘dating game.’

The problem with engaging in these ‘gripe fests’ is that you are unwittingly reinforcing your dating stereostypes and fears and setting yourself up to attract the very thing you don’t want.

According to The Law of Attraction we attract what we consistently focus our attention on.  As applied to your dating and love life, if you focus on what you don’t like about dating and the process of finding love, you attract more of the same.

When you shift your attention to what you do  love about yourself and what you do want to attract when it comes to love, it impacts how you show up in the world.  This in turn impacts what/who you attract to you.

Knowing what you want may sound simple, but in reality – it’s not that easy.  Often what you really desire lies just beneath what you think you want.

Dating, like success in other areas of your life is most successful when you are clear, comtted and aligned.  When what you feel, think and do and want are aligned you most powerfully attract or manifest your desires.

It’s unfortuanate that much of the popular dating advice advises you to change your behaviors or be someone you’re not, so that there is a huge disconnect between what you are truly desiring and how you are showing up in the world.

It’s also important to understand that there is a huge difference between wanting love and being truly ready, open and available for love

If you aren’t attracting or experincing the kind of relationship you truly desire, then you have some unconscious blocks.  If you are wanting love and aren’t experiencing it, then at some level a part of you is saying ‘no’ to it.

And that’s why it doesn’t matter what you change externally if you don’t address your internal blocks, you are not truly open, available and ready for love.

Until you tackle the things that are really holding you back and learn how to be truly open, available and ready for love you won’t get the results you want.

If you have found the whole dating scene disappointing and have started doubting you will ever find love don’t despair.

The answer isn’t to convince yourself that you don’t need a relationship or that you don’t want one or that it’s not in your fate to have one.  Neither does it serve you to believe that you have no power in attracting the kind of relationship you deeply desire  and believe, instead, that you will just get lucky enough to stumble accross it.  You certainly wouldn’t recommend this strategy if you were looking for that promotion or your ideal job, car or house, would you?

Realize that it won’t just happen, however – that’s how you attracted your past relationships which didn’t work out, right?

Realize that you do have more control over the process of finding love than you think.

Your past relationships didn’t ‘just happen’.  As you do choose whoever you go out with – you choose all your relationships.

Realize, that like success in any other area of life, success in relationships will mean doing some serious work.  It means preparing yourself on every level to become what you hope to attract.  When you make the space for love on every level – you will attract it into your life.

Dating and finding love don’t  have to be such a frustrating and miserable experience, full of disappointment, rejection and pain.  Dating and finding love can be a transformative journey once you learn the process of how to date and attract love from the inside-out.

Transforming your dating and love life happens from the inside out.  It’s about embracing and revealing your true self. It’s about you being the best of you and then attracting someone who, though isn’t perfect -  is perfect for you.