2 Relationship Myths Keeping You Stuck – And Single
In my last blog, I busted the myth that you have no control over your relationships. I hope you realize now that by discovering the unconscious patterns you’ve been running – or the dances you’ve been dancing (and no, it won’t take years of therapy!), you can attract the kind of relationship you truly deeply desire.
There are two other myths I’d like to briefly look at today:
Myth 1: You are instinctively supposed to know how to navigate happy, fulfilling relationships
Fact 1: Creating happy, fulfilling relationships is not something you instinctively know.
Firstly, navigating happy relationships is a skill and in a perfect world you would have learned that skill from your parents. Our first teachers were our parents – and no matter how good their intentions were – they weren’t perfect parents and, therefore, not perfect teachers either when it came to teaching us about healthy happy relationships.
Secondly, we didn’t pop out of the birth canal holding a brightly decorated manual, with our name on it that would tell us how to how to navigate our relationships every step of the way.
Thirdly, we’ve undergone a cultural revolution within a short space of time where our work roles and gender roles have changed dramatically. This has left us with a lot of confusion as to how to date and matn ago the rules to dating and finding love were quite clear and defined. As much as your parents try to help you – their world was completely different.
So it’s not your fault you struggle.
Myth 2: If you seek relationship help, it means something is wrong with you.
This second myth hinges on accepting the first myth we just looked at. If you believe you instinctively are ‘supposed to’ know how to navigate successful relationships, then you’ll also buy into this myth – myth number 2.
The converse is also true – once you debunk myth 1 – then myth to gets debunked by default.
Fact 2: There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
You are perfect as you are – you are not damaged or doomed, nor is your fate to stay single… You’re just stuck.
You are stuck in unconscious programming and conditioning, that have, until now, been driving your relationships. Once you discover what’s really been getting in your way of you attracting real love, once you let go of those unhelpful, limiting patterns that have been driving your partner choices – you love life will be transformed!
But does “working on your relationship” sound overrwhelming, exhausting, inconsistent and like just plain hard work?
Do you often feel uncertain about what strategies you should be using and when and how? Do you believe that change is difficult and painful – and to be truthful you really aren’t sure it’s going to be worth it?
And rather than be rushing in head on, do you feel like you want to gently and safely approach the world of dating, love and relationships- you know, pace yourself, feel in control and just take a step at a time?
I have a great resource out for you!
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- Discover your real blocks to love
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- Discover the real you and become the best, most
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- Feel confident and totally enjoy with the dating
- And when you are ready to – attract a relationship that
is aligned with you and your life
- Become the chooser, not the chaser