It Takes Two To Tango . . .

Before you read the rest of this blog, I’d like to ask you to do one small thing.  Jot down on a piece of paper your answer to the following question:

On a scale of 0 – 10 (0 being
‘none’ and 10 being ‘a lot’), how much influence do you believe you have over
attracting love?

Thank you!  We’ll come back to that question later.  Now on to the rest of this blog . . . .

The bigggest myth around attracting love which is keeping you stuck – and ‘still’ single is this:

MYTH: You have no influence over attracting the kind of relationship you truly desire

There is a pervading belief that finding love is about luck or fate or about being in the right place at the right time.  There is a belief that some people are are just more lucky than others when it comes to attracting quality relationships. Well I’m here to challenge that myth big time!

FACT: You have a huge influence over finding love and attracting a happy, fulfilling relationship

Today you’ll discover how much influence you really do have in attracting the kind of relationship you deeply desire….. You’ll discover the secret to changing your past destructive relationship patterns and attract real love.

The Relationship Dance

A relationship or a couple partnership is a dance. The dance has certain moves and patterns that can only happen if both parties are doing the footwork. Both you and your partner have a role in creating the dance you dance together.

It’s the same with relationships. The patterns you create in your relationships, the dance you dance in your relationships can  only happen if both of you are participating in the dynamics. As the saying goes, “It takes two to tango.”

You both participate in the dynamics of your relationships – some times consciously, but most of the time, unconsciously.

In other words, you are a co-creator in all your relationships. They don’t happen to you, they happen through you. This is a really
important point and links in to the secret of understanding how you can influence attracting love in your life.

In a dance, if one of you changes your footwork, the whole dance changes. There is no way a couple can continue a dance move if one of you changes the footwork. It either falls totally to pieces, or you end up in a new dance move.

It’s the same when it comes to relationships. And this is really important.

If you find yourself in a recurring pattern – a certain ‘dance’, then you are at some level participating in the footwork of that dance. Once you can understand your part of that dance – you can by changing your footwork – change the whole dance.

And that’s the secret – to be asking yourself “What’s my part in the relationship dances, I’ve been dancing?”

Changing Your Love Story

If you change your footwork in a dance, the whole dance changes. The dance as you’ve been dancing it cannot continue – the whole dance has to change! Do you get it? This is really powerful stuff!!

So the secret to attracting love into your life is about NOT focusing on your ex’s as the problem. It’s NOT about trying to blame or change the opposite sex.

Instead of trying to force others to change – your date, your partner, your spouse, for example – which only serves to create resistance – you pick the part of the dance that you can influence.

It’s about focusing on what YOU can be doing differently. Focus on how YOU can change the patterns of the old dances that you have, until now, been participating in.

The secret tip to attracting love is about focusing on YOU. And that’s good news because that is all you truly do have control over.

Now that you know this,  let’s revisit the question I asked you at the beginning:

On a scale of 0 – 10 (0 being
‘none’ and 10 being ‘a lot’), how much influence do you believe you have over
attracting love?

Can you see the difference knowing this will make for you?

The question is – what will you do differently from now on?

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