http://thesinglesgym.com/blog/2008/11/oh-the-shame-of-being-single/ Helping You Attract Your Ideal Partner Sun, 21 Nov 2010 03:04:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://thesinglesgym.com/blog/2008/11/oh-the-shame-of-being-single/comment-page-1/#comment-3 Susanne Sun, 23 Nov 2008 22:46:25 +0000 http://thesinglesgym.com/blog/?p=10#comment-3 Hi Chris! Thanks for your comments! I absolutely agree with what you say about the importance of and about the positive impact of loving ourselves. People often do worry that loving themselves means going on a big ego trip. As you rightly note - it doesn't mean that at all! Those who go on big ego trips are actually the very ones who don't love themselves and who still need approval from others about their instrinsic worth and value. Ego trips remind me of peacocks who spread their feathers appearing larger than life as a means of impressing! Hi Chris!
Thanks for your comments! I absolutely agree with what you say about the importance of and about the positive impact of loving ourselves. People often do worry that loving themselves means going on a big ego trip. As you rightly note – it doesn’t mean that at all! Those who go on big ego trips are actually the very ones who don’t love themselves and who still need approval from others about their instrinsic worth and value. Ego trips remind me of peacocks who spread their feathers appearing larger than life as a means of impressing!

]]> http://thesinglesgym.com/blog/2008/11/oh-the-shame-of-being-single/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Chris Ogle Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:28:59 +0000 http://thesinglesgym.com/blog/?p=10#comment-4 Hi Susanne, great article! It is true that Love starts close to home, in fact with ourselves! How can we expect others to Love us if we do not even love ourselves first? This does not mean embark on a huge ego trip and big ourselves up to the detriment of all else, but what it does mean is.... With loving ourselves we become more confident and less reliant on the approval of others for our self worth. Then... naturally when we no longer seek confirmation of our worth from others we inherently become stronger, more attractive and in control of our feelings about who we are. We can now take control of our moods and emotions because they come from our thoughts not from the whims of what we believe others think about us! We have to take ownership of ourselves, stand on our two feet and take charge of who we are, not give away this power to other so called friends whose agenda is seldom on the same path as ours! Like the famous saying.... 'No one can take your self respect and dignity from you, you can only give it away' Hi Susanne, great article!
It is true that Love starts close to home, in fact with ourselves! How can we expect others to Love us if we do not even love ourselves first?
This does not mean embark on a huge ego trip and big ourselves up to the detriment of all else, but what it does mean is….
With loving ourselves we become more confident and less reliant on the approval of others for our self worth. Then… naturally when we no longer seek confirmation of our worth from others we inherently become stronger, more attractive and in control of our feelings about who we are.
We can now take control of our moods and emotions because they come from our thoughts not from the whims of what we believe others think about us!
We have to take ownership of ourselves, stand on our two feet and take charge of who we are, not give away this power to other so called friends whose agenda is seldom on the same path as ours!
Like the famous saying…. ‘No one can take your self respect and dignity from you, you can only give it away’

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