Gaining Self Confidence And The Misconception Of It
By admin on Mar 30, 2009 in Confidence
In my daily life I can see many people seeking to gain self confidence. Unfortunately by observing them, I feel that most will not achieve what they want. It doesn’t matter how much effort they put in, what books they read, what strategy they use, or which expert they learned it from.
As long as they still have the misconception about gaining self confidence, they will not succeed. Many seeking to develop self confidence do it hoping that some day they will reach that place of supreme confidence. They expect that one day they will finally ‘get’ it.
They feel that if they read books on confidence, learn techniques, practice etc, and do it long enough and well enough, they will have that unstoppable self confidence. Only then will they have the courage and ability to take action. They think confidence is like getting promoted. Once you’re promoted, you have more authority. To them, once they have confidence, they have more ability.
Sadly, many people do not realize that the kind of supreme level of confidence they are seeking for DOES NOT EXIST! That’s why no matter what they do, how hard they try etc it’s never gonna happen.
We tend to think that people who look, act and talk confidently are just born that way. That it’s just part of their nature. People like to think that if only they had the confidence of a Tony Robbins, Nelson Mandela or Donald Trump, then they would be just as successful of these successful individuals.
Nothing could be further from the truth. Regardless of how successful someone is, or how confident they seem to be, no one is without doubts. Everyone has moments where they feel unsure, weak and not confident. So now the question is, if all those successful people have doubts and insecurities like the rest of us, how are they able to be so successful and seem full of confidence?
Now although successful individuals do not have the type of supreme confidence that we thought they have, they do have something else that sets them apart from others.
What sets them apart is that they know there is no such thing as having 100% confidence. And because they know this, they do not wait until they are confident enough before taking action. Unlike many others, they do not prepare until they are fully ready, until they have no doubts.
They take action even though they are still unsure and not 100% prepared. Cause let’s face it, we can prepare as much as we can, but we will never be 100% ready in any situation. Successful people are courageous enough to take action even when uncertain. If you want to be totally confident before you even attempt something, you can bet that you won’t be attempting many things.
When we know this, the barrier to gaining self confidence will be broken. By realizing that even the most successful people have uncertainties, fears and insecurities, we know that they are just like everyone else. Just like us. That means we have as much potential to achieve the success that they achieved.
Know that we will never be free of doubt. We will never reach the point where we’re totally ready and confident. Gaining self confidence is through doing and not preparing.
