The A-ZGuide For Singles “W” is for Worth – My Personal Journey

Men and women everywhere are tolerating being in terrible relationships, having ‘energy vampires’ for friends, tolerating bullying at the workplace or even from members of their own family, and in jobs they hate. What is going on?

I remember too being very unhappy in a relationship and the question that got me to sit up and think came from my daughter: “Don’t you think you are worth more?”

Outwardly I appeared confident, had a good job, was outgoing and was pretty good at whatever I set my mind to, yet here I was tolerating being in an emotionally abusive relationship.

Looking back I can see that underneath my ‘mask’ of self sufficiency and confidence I really didn’t think highly of myself. I was still feeling guilty about my divorce two years previously. Likewise I was still carrying a lot of guilt about what I felt I had put my children through – it was, after all me that wanted the divorce. I was ‘the bad guy’. To answer my daughter’s question meant having to admit that I didn’t think I was worth more.

When I left that relationship I embarked on a journey that was all about ME. I wanted to understand myself better, love, accept, appreciate and value myself more. So I spent the next few years investing in ME. I went to personal development courses and wealth creation courses. I began trying various sports and hobbies I had never tried before. I learned to be comfortable with travelling on my own – lots of sweating there.

The bottom line was that I was learning to love me and I was creating a fun, exciting and fulfilling life – it was the beginning of a journey of being and living authentically. I say beginning because it is a journey that is ongoing.

When I look back now – my life is so different. I’m attracting wonderful people into my life – in business, for friendship and also for dating. My business life has moved in directions I never would have imagined. It seems to keep getting more and more exciting. I love waking up in the morning to a new day of challenges and surprises. Today I was on a Skype conference call and noticed what it said by her name: “Sleep is for wimps” – I laughed and couldn’t have agreed more.

My life has certainly changed – as the saying goes “You’ve come a long way baby.” And the change began when I decided to invest in ME.
So what are you worth? If you’re not sure, take a look at what you are tolerating in your life. Take a look at your relationships – they are a mirror to your soul. If you don’t feel you are worth it – you will attract people who don’t value you.

We love the L’Oreal advert that encourages you to buy the hair products because “your worth it.” Deep down inside we want to feel worth it and that’s why this advert is so appealing – it speaks to a core need. The solution, unfortunately, is a temporary one.

People who feel they are worth it invest in themselves. I’m learning that more and more as my business grows and expands.
People who feel they are worth won’t tolerate bad relationships – and when they stop tolerating that they start attracting better relationships.
So even if you, at this moment of time, you don’t feel ‘worth it’, ‘deserving’ or ‘loveable’ – the three biggest blocks to giving and receiving love – you can change that.
Start now by investing in YOU. Read books, listen to audios, go to courses, hang around people you want to be like – just take action and start investing in YOU.

And as you do this you will see your life be transformed!!